Introduction
Culture is a beautiful concept is it not? The idea that everyone’s culture is unique, and even moreso, how people identify with their culture creates such a unique array of identities. Culture is “holistic in the sense that [it]—beliefs, norms, spirituality, and values—[is] not sharply separated from human social life or the organization of the universe” (Champagne, 2014). Culture is all encompassing and brings people together that otherwise may not ever cross paths. After consideration and thoughtfulness, I narrowed down a culture that I closely identified with down to my core, being a woman.
Throughout my exploration of femininity and being a woman during this ethnography, I wanted it to be completely gender inclusive. I encourage anyone to think deeply about their masculine and feminine energy and how that contributes to their identity. I do not want to confine a “woman” to any gender, but rather let people see themselves wherever they are at. I see myself as a woman with feminine and masculine sides to my character, but I know others define themselves in all ways. That is accepted and that is welcomed. The differences in a culture are what make it a holistic community, one that is all-encompassing. I encourage you to be open-minded throughout this narrative and in your own life, as our identities are fluid and ever-growing.
Throughout this process, I have decided to focus on women in male-dominated fields and how that has affected the identity of who they are as women. I am specifically interested in women in the three fields that I find myself perpetually dominated by male energy: athletics, STEM, and in my home environment. Two driving questions that I set out to answer, in order to get a better definition of the word ‘woman’, was “What does it mean to be a woman?” and “What empowers people in their femininity?”. These are abstract questions but they serve a very important purpose of forcing myself and others to think deeply about who we are to our core.
Personal Narrative – Athletics, STEM, Home Life
Diving into this culture was interesting as I worked to identify what about being a woman really stood out to me and why. A common theme that was present in my findings was the juxtaposition of masculine energy throughout my evolution, as I navigated the inner workings of what it was to be a woman. I noticed that one of the main reasons that I really appreciated my femininity was because of the male-dominated environments I had grown up in. This environment created in me an ability to be fluid in my identity as a woman as I often see my own identity encompassing masculine energies. It also created a stronger sense of womanliness as I was constantly outnumbered by males.
For me, being a woman means having a careful balance of so many contradicting attributes and doing it with gracefulness. I find myself having opposing personality traits that work together in a balancing way, a yin and yang. I am strong but I am also sensitive. I am extremely stubborn, but also put others first and am often selfless. I am competitive but also inclusive. I am mature but also childlike. I see these same kinds of opposing characteristics in all of the women in my life, all well rounded in their unique ways. I am empowered in my femininity through my more compassionate sides. I think I have a heart for others and often think outside of myself. This is something that empowers me because I can empower other women through my love and support. I think too often women see each other as competition, when really we are all quite similar and one’s beauty never takes away from another’s.
[1] Athletics
My growth as a woman was hugely influenced by my love for body movement and athletics. I have always thought that girls are extremely competitive and strong, ever since I was young largely due to my participation in sports. I began playing soccer, as every young child does, at the age of 5. This was a vivid memory for me and one that shapes my growth. I played on a co-ed soccer team when I was young with two of my brothers that are close in age with me. Our team was the best in the league, we were the Flaming Blue Tigers, intimidating I know. During one of our tournaments, the team we were playing against did not have enough players that day for some reason. Since it was YMCA and so relaxed, my coach gave over our striker, one of the best players on the team and a leading scorer. I was furious to say the least, the competitiveness in me was fuming. But this was a pivotal moment for me in my athletic career, realizing the intensity of my competitive nature, that even at a young age I took athletics so seriously. I continued to play soccer for school teams and on a select traveling team until the end of high school.
I write down about my athletics as it shows the timeline and consistency of my behavior towards athletics since I was young. It defined who I was until the end of high school. Once I got older and more competitive, the teams I played on were all female teams, surrounding myself with all females was something I had never had anywhere else in my life except in sports. So the greatest example that I have of a large group of women, of this culture of women, is one that is incredibly tough, persistent, driven, tenacious, team-oriented, and competitive. This is my definition of women, this was how I saw my female peers as I grew up. It is interesting that my teams were all female, but my training outside of that was all male dominated. I trained with my brothers, I lifted weights with my brothers, I went on runs with my dad, I scrimmaged with the boys team for fun. I had these two opposing sides growing up in sports, one that was team-oriented and dominated by females. Then I had another side that was striving to get better, to play against guys because they pushed me to be skilled in a different way. Athletics has absolutely grown me so much and has contributed to my idea of femininity in that women are strong and driven. They are the most tenacious when passionate about something, but they also know how to work with those around them to accomplish a greater goal.
[2] STEM
For me, growing up in STEM was always positive, I never had an experience that sticks out to me where I did not feel supported as a woman. However, it has been difficult to be a woman going into a field very dominated by men. I have been passionate about medicine since I was little, following my dad around as he made his surgical rounds to his patients. As I have gotten older, I have had a lot of questions regarding my path in the field. Questions like, “How are you going to balance being a doctor and a mother?” “Are you following in your dad’s footsteps?” These questions are valid, but my dad was never asked if he could balance being a father. Is parenting, when in a monogamous relationship, not a mutual responsibility? Following in my dad’s footsteps is never how I choose to view my passion. I am passionate about medicine because I am me, I have a love for people and the human body, and I want to contribute to people’s wellbeing. I rather not attribute my passion to my father’s career, as if he paved the way for this career for me. He absolutely has contributed in a substantial way to my interests but it is not the sole reason I have chosen this field. I think as a woman in STEM it is vital to be able to hold your own and remember why you do it. STEM careers are largely dominated by male figures, and this can bring about a lack of recognition for females in the field, as if they are not taken as seriously. I have set my mind to show up and make a presence in whatever environment I am in, regardless of the genders around me.
[3] Home Life
Lastly, growing up in a male-dominated home was very empowering for me and my growth as a female. I have 5 brothers and no sisters. People growing up would show sympathy for me because I was outnumbered, however I have always viewed it as a positive. I love my brothers and I think they largely contributed to my growth. They created a sense of comfortability in myself, that I was inherently different than them in some ways and that was okay. All of us were different, regardless of our genders. I grew up competing with them, we made each other better. Even getting food at dinner time was a competition. I think one of the best parts about growing up with all brothers is how they made me feel as a woman. My brothers never saw me differently, they never underestimated me. I did everything they did and likewise. We were equals. It was such a beautiful environment to grow up in; that I never once doubted my capabilities as a woman, and I still do not.
Methodology
To conduct my primary research I decided to interview Belle, a Chapman STEM student who struggled in her identity as a woman while engulfed in the sciences at Chapman. I wanted to interview her because of her background in STEM and her desire to go into dentistry in the future. Belle and I interviewed in person, as she is my housemate. I also interviewed my mother, Cindi. I chose to interview her because she has a unique perspective while being the mother to five boys and one girl. I interviewed her over facetime as she lives in Washington state with the rest of my family. Both of the interviews were incredibly insightful and had so much depth to them. Our conversations even got emotional at times. I did not include a list of my interview questions because I really wanted the interviews to be conducted more like conversations. I asked them my driving questions and asked them questions to lead in the direction I wanted to go, but then I really just listened. It was a beautiful process and felt very natural this way.
Interviews – Primary Research
[1] Belle – STEM student at Chapman
I conducted an interview with a Chapman student named Belle. She is a STEM student at Chapman getting her BA in Health Sciences. She remembers vividly coming to Chapman early for an advising session. There were all males in her Crean advising appointment and one of the heads of the biology department there. Belle was told that if she wanted to succeed in the sciences that she could not be in a sorority, however, the males that outnumbered her did not receive the same talk. From then on Belle felt as though she was viewed poorly for her appearance, even by her female teachers. That to dress in a feminine way or to look feminine and be smart were contradictions. She noticed herself sensoring what she wore on the days that she had her science lectures to come across to her teachers in a certain light. Belle felt as though she had to suppress her femininity to be viewed as intelligent and worth their time.
During Belle’s sophomore year she took a physics course. Belle thought she might really thrive in physics as she was interested in science and skilled in math. She said that she really put in the work for this class, more than any class she had ever taken before. The first test came around, and she had put in countless hours, skipped meals, late nights into studying for this. Belle ended up setting the curve for the class. A few weeks later, Belle overheard that her peers in the class had been slandering her work, convinced that she was overly flirtatious with their male teacher and that he favored her. She said that she began to doubt herself, wondering if she was not smart enough to be in STEM. If her peers did not accept or think she was capable of scoring high on a test, then maybe she did not belong in the field. Belle had to once again feel as though she needed to suppress her femininity to be taken seriously. This experience for Belle was very disheartening, but even more so she steered away from a field in science that she was really good at and actually enjoyed. Belle became ashamed in her femininity. Elsewhere in her life, her femininity was celebrated, but in STEM it was a burden.
Despite these negative experiences in STEM, Belle is looking forward to a career in medicine. She expressed that women in male dominated fields, like STEM, are so integral to the growth and innovation of the company. Women naturally bring a different perspective to the table than a man. Women know what it is like to be a woman for one, many women know what it is like to give birth, to have nurturing extends. These are traits that are unique to women and only they can offer. She talked about how health and wellness in companies is driven by women. Being a female in STEM is not always easy, but it can be so rewarding, paving the way for other women to come.
I asked her to define what being a woman is to her. She said her definition of a woman is based off of her role models. Her mother worked in a man’s world, in the car industry. She said that her mom never let people’s doubts affect her own vision for her life. She always appreciated her mother’s advice to never let a man tell you who you are or what you are capable of. I also asked her to express how her femininity has been a source of empowerment for her. She said that her femininity has made her realize that “[she] can.”
[2] Cindi – mother to five sons
I also interviewed my mother, Cindi. No one better to interview about being surrounded by males in the home than her. It was very interesting to get her perspective on how raising boys was so different. My mother defined being a woman as someone who possesses “a balance in strength, love, and support.” She finds empowerment through her femininity in her intuition as a mother and in life. She expressed how she appreciates how perceptive she is, a trait that she attributes to being a woman. She sees the deeper meaning into things which helps her to recognize the depths to life’s circumstances and people’s emotions.
She then went on to talk about how the family dynamic of having six boys in the house and one other girl was for her. She said initially she wanted all boys, she felt that she was action oriented, independent, and athletic which aligned with having sons in her mind. She realized that there was a great challenge with raising so many boys however. She felt for a while that she lost herself because of the difficulty she felt in connecting with her sons all the time. She would express sensitive topics at the dinner table and everything was taken lately or as a joke. Very little was seen with depth and very little was sacred. She felt unappreciated because of this, that her qualities of being a mother, being in tune with her emotions, were being unappreciated.
Having gone through this, she now feels that she is more grounded in who she is more than ever. She no longer feels the need to have someone validate the way in which she is feeling. Living in a male dominated household has also made her more open-minded, to see the world from completely different perspectives than her own. She has learned to allow people around her to just be, to be different than her and have that be celebrated. That difference does not need to take from her own femininity, but rather enhances it, it shows how powerful it is when shown in juxtaposition with so much masculine energy.
Analysis
I think what I found really beautiful about this ethnography is that it allowed me to see the diversity in perspectives. It is interesting to interview women about being a woman, as it is an obvious and unspoken topic. If someone identifies as a woman, people assume traits that go with that identity, but never really talk about what deeper meaning goes along with being a woman, or a man for that matter. I thought it was interesting that Belle defined a woman as the female role models she holds in her life. She did not look inward, but rather looked outward at who has impacted her as a woman. My mom on the other hand, defined a woman as someone who balances many things and personality traits with grace. I also found it interesting that I defined it in a similar way to my mother. I described being a woman as a yin and a yang, being in touch with multiple sides of myself.
I found it really inspiring that during my primary research interviews, both interviewees got very personal and told about the extremely challenging and raw parts about being a woman in a male dominated environment. In juxtaposition with that, they both finished on more of a positive note about how women in these fields can create change around them and within themselves. Belle talked about women being vital to new innovations and discoveries in science and businesses as they bring other perspectives. Whereas Cindi talked about how her confidence in herself and her femininity ended up evolving and strengthening because of her male dominated environment that used to once tear her down. I also have seen my presence in male dominated spaces as a positive experience for my life, making me strengthen my identity and be fully confident in who I am.
Conclusion
Femininity is a beautiful and complex concept; it is multifaceted and is found within each of us. It was such an incredible experience to find out more about what defines a woman, how women in male dominated fields grow because of it, and the challenges that come with being in tune with your feminine side. There is so much strength in being a woman, and placing a woman in a ‘man’s world’ only makes her that much more powerful and recognized for her uniqueness.
References
Champagne, D. (2014, October 18). Understanding Holistic Indigenous Cultures. Retrieved from
J, B. (2020, April). A woman in STEM and its effect on her identity [Personal interview].
W, C. (2020, April). A woman in a male dominated household [Telephone interview].

